…Some Christians who would deplore explosive expressions of anger fail to reckon with the reality that implosive anger is fully as destructive in the long run.
Whereas explosive anger begins with rage and may quickly turn to violence, implosive anger begins with silence and withdrawal but in time leads to resentment, bitterness, and eventually hatred.
” He wants me to think he’s out of control and more threatening – but asking that question of me tells me that he is very much in control of himself. She’d asked me to stay on the line until the officer arrived. I was giving the dispatcher an accurate account of what was happening as she’d asked.
If your abuser threatens to leave you, try calmly saying just ignore them. If they know you have abandonment issues, they’ll threaten to abandon you.Threatening behavior includes implying that he’s going to harm me physically with behavior such as backing me into a corner, getting right up in my face while yelling and red-faced, acting like he’s wringing my neck at a distance, or kicking a chair, punching cabinets, etc. He has also threatened my pets to coerce me to do what he wanted.